The Key to a Happy Life: Striking a Balance at Work and at
In a culture obsessed with consumption, whether it be tech gadgets, fast cars, large houses, or job titles — it should be no surprise that we often tip the scales of work/life balance. Advertisers and Pop Culture tell us we can have it all. The strain of trying to accumulate it all has made many people virtual slaves in their offices.
Even after working more than 50 hours a week… even after getting every material need and luxury that money can buy… many people still live unhappily. The corporate success, instead of bringing fulfillment, has left many executives and employees with a feeling emptiness and disillusionment.
Stress is a part of every job. People are going to be people, accidents will happen, life is not fair, and thing won’t work out all the time. Striving for a life and career without stress may actually create even MORE stress! But there is still hope for the tired executive and the downtrodden worker. Stress and anxiety need not ruin lives and careers. If you are at point where the demands and pressure of your career is becoming overpowering, use the following advice on how to be an achiever who has work/life balance:
Writing It Down
What you are lacking is work/life balance. Balance does not mean equilibrium. Sometime you have to just take the time to dig in to start to dig out!
If you plan carefully to have balance, you will most likely make the right choices. Life can be made simple and enjoyable. A career or life plan must start with having a stated purpose. Knowing what you really want helps you jettison stressful things which are not really important to you. Knowing your priorities also helps you get rid of unnecessary worries and prevents you from wasting energy.
Writing it down — putting your plan on paper — is the first step on having a balanced life. Your first agenda would be to clearly define what you want. Do you prefer to have a fun personal or family life, vibrant health? Is that more important to you than having financial success or a well-respected position? Maybe you can have both without making any sacrifice in terms of time or quality of life? When you write it down, the process of marking your priorities is much easier.
Recharge Yourself for Work/Life Balance
All work and no play make Jack or Jill a dull person.
Do you rarely have fun at home or enjoy your work because you always feel tired and hassled? Maybe it’s time to ask yourself when the last time you really connected with your family was. Maybe it’s also time to take a look at your inner life…your spiritual bearings. While often overlooked, you cannot have the life you love without a healthy body and spirit that will allow you to live it. You must take care of your physical and spiritual well-being. Take time to recharge, which is really what stress management is all about.
You can start recharging and finding that work/life balance by answering these questions:
- Am I bored?
- Do I get enough exercise?
- Is my medication any help at all?
- What really makes me sick?
- Are my loved ones (or friends), or my job draining all my energy?
The state of our physical and spiritual well-being has a direct impact on the quality of our lives. It impacts our work, business, and relationships. So we must take care of our bodies, eating right, getting enough sleep and rest, and exercising regularly.
Are You Being Too Self-Focused?
To get our bearings, it is important to be constantly aware of our priorities. A good way to start re-defining one’s priorities is by answering the following questions:
- Are you neglecting yourself physically, mentally or spiritually?
- Are you neglecting your spouse, your children, your peers or other important relationships?
- Are you fulfilling your commitments?
- Are you operating in your Comfort Zone?
Being self-focused or having an air of self-importance doesn’t just destroy your work/life balance, it also destroys it for those around you. Pride, selfishness, and conceit should always be put in check.
Leverage Your Time
You might be wondering where the time went. Your to-do list is increasing, you have countless meetings, it’s your spouse’s birthday, pick up junior from his baseball practice this Friday. You’re trying to find work/life balance by doing more with your family or doing more socially, but the increased demands are causing your more stress.
Ever been there?
You may not realize it but you have to power to manage your everyday stresses. Leverage your time and resources to ease the pressures off your back.
- Utilize Your Plan of action – Start focusing. Which ones from your to-do list is the one you really want to do? Which ones can be delegated?
- Don’t be the Lone Ranger for every crisis or situation- Even The Lone Ranger used a side kick and not everything can get the job done by just being alone.
- Give yourself a pat on the back– Every once in a while. Give yourself credit. Acknowledge all the good things you have done.
In many ways being overwhelmed or too stressed is really your decision. Remember that you always have a choice to live the lifestyle you have and to do the work you do. For some stress is just the currency to pay for the life they want. It’s not health, but that is a choice you have the freedom to make. For most of us, however, we want balance. Realize that if you want it all there is a price. Decide what is really important to you and then determine just what price you want to pay.